No matter what you call it—giving head, slobbing on the knob, going down, blowjob, fellatio, oral sex on a penis is a fun and pleasurable way to have sex.
Giving head has a lot of psychological appeal. Blowjobs have been shown to make people feel close and vulnerable because of how personal they are.
Also, it can be about service. From a psychological point of view, people who like to give blowjobs love serving which can be quite erotic.
For the person who gets a BJ, it feels great. There are a lot of nerve endings in the head or tip of the penis. When these endings are touched, it becomes incredibly pleasurable.
Unfortunately, not everyone gives perfect blowjobs. The good news is that you can improve your blowjob game by doing simple and easy things.
While there is no “right” way to blow someone off, as everyone likes different things, you can use several tried-and-tested tricks to your advantage if you want to put a dick in your mouth confidently.
Keep the communication lines open
Communication is important in every aspect of sex. Regarding oral, both people in the play have to tell each other what they’re into and what they’re not. Not into deep-throating or pulling hair? Clarify that. Want some toys to play with? Inform your partner.
The same way you should communicate when you love something is the same way you should communicate if you don’t like something or want more. Gently tell your partner about it without hurting their feelings.
If you are the one giving the blowjob, you should never feel pressured to do it. Like all other aspects of sex, blowjobs should be consensual. Don’t give oral sex if you don’t like it or aren’t in the mood to provide it.
Arm yourself with educational blowjob videos
If you would like some tips before you go in, there are plenty of resources you can use. There are a lot of great places, such as Mr. Skin, where you can watch blowjob videos. Some videos have professional models, while qualified sex coaches and clinical sexologists do others. You can also go for erotic apps, which have parts with lessons and step-by-step guides.
Don’t be in a haste
Don’t be in a hurry when giving a blowjob. You should start by teasing your partner. Grind your body against them, roll it around them, and kiss them down from the chest or feet.
Kiss, stroke, and lick all over their body, grazing the dick now and then so that he’s already getting hard in anticipation by the time you get there.
When you get to the penis, lick from top to bottom. Start sucking harder when the penis twitches.
The head of the penis has the most nerve endings, so putting your attention there can be especially fun.
On the bottom of the head, there is a small bump. It’s very sensitive, and many people with penises love to have it licked or touched. Just ask your partner if they like the stimulation, as it can be very sensitive to direct touch.
Keep it wet
A big part of doing a good BJ is putting yourself into it and making a mess. The wet it is, the better.
We’re talking so messy that you spit, drool, and your makeup runs down your face. You can never have too much spit. So let the juices out of your mouth.
A sloppy blowjob is not only sexy but also feels warm and wet. It can also help you avoid the feeling of accidentally pulling in the wrong direction or getting a little bit of teeth in.
Of course, you should drink plenty of water so that it’s easier to get all that juicy saliva in your blowjob. Remember that a dry mouth = a dry blowjob. So drink plenty of water.
To make it more fun, consider using flavored lube. When using the lube, ensure it doesn’t have sugar or contains dangerous chemicals.
As much as the lubes are great for a fun blowjob, ensure that you don’t touch your vagina with them, as they can irritate the vaginal flora and even lead to a yeast attack.
It’s normal to feel self-conscious when receiving or giving oral sex, so always be enthusiastic.
You don’t have to deep throat
Many porn videos will show girls deep-throating, but you don’t need this for an amazing blowjob. If you aren’t comfortable deep-throating, don’t do it. You can always cut off some of that length with your hand, and your partner will still feel good.
While this is the case, remember that making “gagging noises” doesn’t hurt as part of your blowjob. This is because they can be extremely exciting for you and your partner.
If you love deep-throating, you can go ahead and do it, but always ensure that you do it right. If you have never done it before, practice relaxing your throat while taking deep breaths.
A great way to practice is to touch the back of your throat with a toothbrush after brushing your teeth. This way, you get used to the feeling of a dick touching the back of your mouth.
Remember that deep-throating isn’t for everyone, but you can make it happen if it’s important to you.
Involve your hands
Just because it’s called a blowjob doesn’t mean that you should only use your mouth—also consider involving your hands. When you also use your hands, you relieve your mouth so it doesn’t ache when you are done.
For the best feeling, match the pressure of your hand to the pressure of your mouth so it feels like one smooth action. If you do it right, your partner won’t even know you’re using your hands.
Follow the way your mouth moves with your hand. You can move it straight up and down or in a corkscrew-like way. Your partner keeps guessing when you change how you stroke or suck. And this adds to the fun.
Keep in mind that if they tell you they like something, you should keep doing it.
If you have some experience, also consider involving your neck. Changing the angle of your neck gives your mouth a break and lets you explore different parts of his manhood. It also leaves room for creativity.